How to Create Peace in Your Life
The world we live in is a hectic one.
Between 9-5s, side hustles, relationships, hobbies, children, responsibilities, and much, much more, it is no wonder that so many people are stressed out, on medication, or regularly seeing a therapist.
Everyone wants peace in life.
Especially people experiencing a crisis in their marriage.
Of course there are many ways to find outwardly peace, but the first step to true overall life peace is to find your own inner peace.
This may take some soul-searching and you might have to deal with some uncomfortable feelings along the way, but it is possible.
How might your life change if you find the inner peace you deserve?
- You will judge yourself and others less
- You will worry less
- You will find pleasure in things you haven’t before or recently
- You will be able to connect to others more completely
- You will improve your relationships
- You will be content with disconnecting from distractions
- You will be able to stay in the present and the now
- You will feel at peace being alone
Whether you are trying to find peace within your marriage or your own personal peace of mind, the following are some tips for doing so.
Finding Peace Within Yourself
Slow Down: Take a deep breath and slow down–with everything. You do not have to be go-go-go all the time; you do not have to be the hero; you do not have to be perfect; you are not in a life competition with anyone.
Practice Gratitude: You are thankful for things in your life. But do you actively and purposefully practice gratitude on a daily basis? Research shows that practicing gratitude physically changes the molecular structure in the brain, causing you to be healthier and happier.
Find Your Escape: Finding a peaceful place to escape from life’s stress sources on a regular basis will allow you to be mindful, let go of whatever is on your mind, and recharge yourself in a place other than the usual.
Disconnect: Unplug from all devices and distractions. Do this in the evening, do this on the weekend, do this anytime that you want. This may even mean disconnecting from certain people or places in your life. This will allow you to focus more on yourself and your priorities.
Practice Meditation or Mindfulness: Learning to meditate (which you do have to learn and practice) can help you reduce stress and will promote emotional health. Mindfulness is a little different than meditation; there are numerous mindfulness activities out there that teach one to be in the here and now, to zone out from distractions, and to become more aware of feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations.
Feel Your Feelings: This one connects to meditation and mindfulness. In order for you to feel completely at peace, you need to be able to fully and accurately identify your feelings and emotions. This may seem easy, but to some people it is not. Recognizing antecedents to certain feelings, feeling bodily sensations associated with those feelings, and listening to the thoughts you think when you experience those feelings are important things to be aware of. Be okay with experiencing feelings all across the emotional spectrum. There is no such thing as a good or bad feeling.
Let Go of Negativity: Speak positively, think positively, and stay positive. Throw that negativity in the trash. Learn to let things go and put things that bother you behind you and walk away.
Practice Acceptance: Learning to accept yourself fully, accept a situation, or accept others is an important practice in order to bring peace into your mind and your life. Accept your flaws and those of others; we all cannot be perfect and neither will our lives.
Specific Peace-Making Techniques to Try
Mindfulness Techniques: guided meditation, mindful eating, coloring or painting, listening to relaxing music, mindful walk through nature, deep breathing, repeating positive aspirations, using all five senses, body scanning, and the list goes on and on.
Guided Meditation: You can find specific guided meditation on YouTube videos, through applications on your phone, and just by searching online. These are beneficial for people who aren’t well-versed in or comfortable with meditating on their own.
Go Into Nature: Nature can be very healing and is a natural (literally) way to reduce stress and tension. Notice your surroundings, listen to the sounds, smell the fresh air, and feel the breeze. Embrace the solitude.
Journaling: Writing down thoughts and worries helps get them out of your head and onto paper. Just the process of doing so, even if you throw the paper away afterward, can be cathartic and bring about peace.
Declutter Your Space: Clean your favorite spaces. Physically decluttering can help you to mentally declutter.
Take a Mini-Vacation: Even if you cannot venture out and take an actual vacation.
Create a Gratitude List: On a daily or weekly basis, write down or speak aloud what you are grateful for.
Say Kind Things to Yourself: Speaking positive affirmations aloud may seem cheesy, but physically saying them and hearing yourself say them can change your mindset faster than just thinking them.
Forgive and Ask For Forgiveness: Harboring guilt or resentment can cause havoc in your mind–letting go and forgiving those who have wronged you can help you to move on. The same goes for asking for forgiveness. Doing these can give you peace of mind.
Engage in Art Therapy: Not only can doing arts and crafts be fun, but can be relaxing. You can do this individually, with friends, or join a group or class. There are also actual, licensed art therapists out there.
Volunteer: Doing for others can give you a sense of purpose, which can increase an overall sense of happiness.
Going back to your marriage–finding peace in your own life will ultimately help you to find peace within your relationship.
You can even choose to do some of these activities as a couple.
Many of these things are backed by research for helping to create a more healthy, happy individual.
All you need to do is make the choice to find peace, find internal motivation, and create a plan of action.
Try some of these techniques out and hopefully you will find that discovering peace in your life and in your marriage isn’t all that difficult.
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